You know you are a therapeutic parent when you are confronting your son about his stealing and in the midst of the conversation a nugget of truth starts to emerge. Your partner pursues the questioning as he did not really catch the nugget of truth. You interrupt your partner and take over the questioning while holding one finger up to your husband and say...
He gets where you are going immediately and lets you go there.
Your son admits he was trying to get your attention, he is understands how he could of done it differently and he moves into remorse without rage. Everyone goes to bed and no one is angry at anyone else any longer.
Read Daniel Hughes, it works.