Friday, 3 February 2012

Archived Post 2012 - More transitions

I am sitting here listening to my boys yell and holler as they try to get our dogs out into the pen for the day. They do it every morning and some days it is really amusing just to sit back and listen to them banter with one another and the dogs. They are a bit like a clown troop in a circus and it frequently involves lots of spilled water and a cat who tried to get in the way. This morning they are particularly excited because they are meeting Kate tonight.

Transitioning Kate to our family is a complicated process because of her issues and the fact she lives 5 hours away. Jack has that funny work thing during the week and the boys have school and so that means we can only go there on weekends. Her foster parents ( who are fabulous) are both teachers and they have to do that funny working thing as well, so it means that they can only come here on weekends as well.. All of that means that this transition process is going to be long. We transitioned the boys in 2 weeks, which in many ways was not long enough but we saw them almost everyday for those 2 weeks.

Starting last week and for the next 5 weeks, our lives be a mix of some combination of us coming and going in order to make sure that we see Kate every week till she moves here in March. As frustrating as it is for us, the adults, I can not even begin to imagine how hard it is for her. The boys are bigger, have healed more and can understand the process but she is 6 ( her birthday was yesterday) and the planning of all this coming and going has her expressing a lot of mixed emotions and even though she is a bright and articulate little girl it is pretty confusing.

So today we go back with the boys in tow ( they are excited, which makes me happy) to spend the weekend with our daughter so that she can get to know us all a little better before she moves here
and all hell breaks loose, she is stuck with us, and finally knows that she is not going to move again. I have no fantasies about this transition being an easy one, or that the move will go smoothly but I do know that this is going to be a whole lot different than our last adoption because there is little that princess can do that we have not already got the t-shirt for. We have a lot of been there, done that t-shirts, the boys made sure of that!

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